As we have previously written, our experience parenting children that we have adopted has brought with it many surprises, challenges and yes, its bizarre moments!
One of the things that we’ve noticed over the past few years is how the entire adoptive experience has had an isolating effect on us. If we would have had a nickel for every time we’ve looked at each other and said, “they [meaning friends and even family] just don’t understand” our financial status would be dramatically altered!
One thing we admit is that it is hard to talk to about these things. There have been those who tried. It often feels like others are wondering if we’ve lost our minds, not to mention our parental touch. Attempts by those around us to help us out by saying something that they think is either instructive or inspirational often seem shallow or even worse, judgmental and condemning. Admittedly, it’s a tough line to walk. I’m not sure I could say something all that wise to me if I were in my friends’ shoes!
So that’s why we’re posting these links! We came across several other blogs recently that say it all and to be honest really make us feel like we are not alone and there are people out there that do understand. There really are people out there that are living the life we are living to some degree or another. We are thankful for these posts that have encouraged us and spoken to our heart. We hope you will enjoy them as well.
This blog tells it all, exactly what we feel and experience daily. We are not saints but Warriors fighting for these children and all children who need homes and families. Please click on the following link: http://sherific.blogspot.com/2013/11/adoption-month.html?m=1
This blog offers a nice mix of humor and truth. It is a list of the 10 things that you don’t say to adoptive parents. Please click on the following link: http://africatoamerica.org/2014/01/24/ten-things-not-to-say-to-adoptive-parents/. My favorite part was the 7 things to say to an adoptive parent. So true and encouraging. Lets all try to say some of these things to the families you know that are adopting or have adopted.
We are truly not offended by others attempts to encourage us. In fact, we’ve said a lot of the same things to others too. We recognize that ours is a unique and difficult situation and we are eternally grateful for friends and family like you that have stood with us and encouraged us! With that said, enjoy and we’ll talk again soon…